
Great With Child is a wide-ranging recounting of
a journey that begins with thinking about becoming pregnant and concludes,
in the book, with the baby's first birthday. (New York: Tarcher/Putnam,
2002, 291 pp.)
Early in Debra Rienstra's new book on becoming a mother, the aptly
titled Great With Child, there's an obscure passage from the Old Testament
book of Proverbs that serves as a launching pad for all that follows.
There are three things that are never satisfied, four that never say,
"Enough!": the grave, the barren womb, land, which is never
satisfied with water, and fire, which never says, "Enough!"
In the book Rienstra says simply: "The longing to create life
is elemental, on the level of fire, earth and death. The steadily humming
tissues and organs, as they play out their unconscious patterns, long
to serve something spiritual, to touch the eternal. It does not seem
strange to me, then, that our physical bodies lean hard, with our souls,
toward the eternal."
In that context it does not seem strange then that Rienstra decided
to document her third, and final, pregnancy with such detail and precision
as to inspire an almost 300-page book.
"After my first two children were born," she says, "I
remembered their births with a sort of nostalgia. With this I wanted
to savor every moment of the experience. Also, most books on pregnancy
and birth treat it as merely a medical event, physical changes and fetal
development. I wanted to read something that treated motherhood in the
fullness of its dimensions -social and personal, body, mind and soul.
Sometimes, as all mothers know, if something must get done you have
to do it yourself. So I started writing."
Consequently, Great With Child is a wide-ranging recounting of a journey
that began with thinking about becoming pregnant and concluded, in the
book, with the baby's first birthday. It's a combination of a devotional,
a first-person pregnancy account and more with pregnancy as the pivot
point.
Early reviews of the book have been glowing.
A recent Publishers Weekly handed Great With Child a starred review,
saying: "The book's greatest strength, however, is that she never
strays far from her own narrative. Though she spent more than a year
revising her manuscript, each chapter reflects her thoughts and feelings
as the events she describes unfolded. As such, her memoir tells the
truth in a way that few books about parenthood do. Rather than recounting
her story long after it happened and/or intepreting it to support a
particular parenting philosophy, she simply records how things felt
as they occurred. A new or expectant mother is much more likely to find
herself, and thereby solace, in these pages than in how-to books written
by those for whom the sleeplessness and tumult of infant care is a distant
memory."
That, says Rienstra, is the idea. In fact she says those first acts
of simply recording events and feelings led to the book's often eclectic
nature, where Shakespeare, the Bible, Sesame Street, C.S. Lewis, Star
Trek (she's a self-confessed Trekkie), medieval art and more all weave
in and out of the narrative at their pleasure. Some of the references
were things that have been in her head for years (I walk through life
with texts in my head she says), while others required extensive research
in a wide variety of anthologies and publications.
"I kept finding that there weren't really any dead ends,"
she says. "Everything seemed relevant. I was bringing a new person
into the world, so the whole world was fair game."
That whole world included her Calvin classrooms where the literature
and poetry classes that she teaches often enter into the book.
"I was actually a little surprised," she says, "at how
much my Calvin classes enter into it. But one of the things I love about
teaching is that the texts that I teach are relevant to my own life.
And that's one of the things I try also to communicate to my students.
These things we explore together aren't confined to the classroom. They
intersect with our lives every day."
Rienstra's not sure what's next on her horizon. Philip, the subject
of Great With Child, is now almost three. She jokes that her next book
will be called Further Behind: A Day in the Life of a Mother. For now,
however, she's enjoying this book, her first, and savoring both the
memories of its creation and the moments of its arrival.
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