Monday, August 29, 2005
Real life lessons—job loss
So many real life lessons lately that it’s hard to sort out what to share. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I’ve made most of these mistakes myself so there’s no judgement. Just hurt sometimes with your hurt. But I can’t share the joy without also sharing the sadness, right?
One recent case in point—on occasional Fridays, someone will come in who’s just—and I mean within hours—been let go. One look says it all—shock, hurt, emotions raw. Sometimes it’s been a “carry your box of belongs out the door.” Or, maybe it’s just….“carry yourself out the door.”
Whatever the scenario, sudden job loss reeks emotional havoc.
The tempation is to jump back into the search immediately. Sometimes, for financial reasons, a person has to do that. No delay. No reflection. Just run after that next job.
Hopefully, however, a person has at least a few days, minimum, to digest shock, recognize emotions, learn lessons, receive support, regroup, regalvanize….and finally to head out again.
Because if you don’t allow enough time to recoginize and grieve the loss, those emotions will seep out one way or another.
So much to write about here. But I’ll close with one brief tip. If this has been your recent experience, set up a schedule as near to normal as possible.
I met with one person working on her job search, literally, 24/7. She’d get up in the middle of the night to check job boards and send in more applications.
Don’t do that. Allow yourself some down time or get together with friends. Take a day off to rejuvenate. Catch your breath before the next week begins.
As I’ve seen in so many cases, the pain diminishes over time, especially if there’s room left for forgiveness and healing.
If I’m writing about you—somewhere out there—remember that you are not defined by the loss of your job. And that the One who made you will not abandon you.
As always, open to your very own, very important stories.