2010-2011 Schedule

Hook-ups and Hang-ups: a Panel Discussion on Romantic Relationships
Panelists Nate and Aminah Bradford, Stan Mathay and Sarah Ten Broek share their varied stories, insights and advice on relationships, exploring ways to understand what you want and need from a relationship, and how to live with a healthy focus whether or not you're in one.

Till Porn Do Us Part?
Grand Rapids couple Dave and Sara Hoekstra speak frankly about the effects of porn on their marriage. Followed by Q&A time.
Note: Dave and Sara Hoekstra will host follow-up discussions for men and women on October 6.

When Players become 'Players' - Sex and Power for Sport
An opportunity for student athletes to meet Bob Hall (of "Learning to Live With Conflict") and discuss the interplay of sport, conflict and sexuality in today's culture.

Non-Violent Sexuality: Making Peace with Passion
Bob Hall is the founder of the conflict education company, Learning to Live with Conflict. Bob has lectured on over 900 college campuses across North America, and has been nominated three times for the National Association of Campus Activities "Lecture Program of the Year." Bob's presentation on relationships, intimacy, and sexual violence issues is interactive, humorous, engaging and thought-provoking. "A fascinating, witty, sometimes disarming view of conflict, sexuality and just coping with the world today." (Asst. Program Director, U. of Florida). www.nonviolentsexuality.com

For Men Only
A follow-up discussion about pornography with Dave Hoekstra.

For Women Only
A follow-up discussion about pornography with Sara Hoekstra.

Intersexed: Neither Male nor Female, God Created Them
A presentation by Hessel Bouma of the Calvin College biology department. A small but significant number of persons are neither clearly male nor female but "intersexed." Biomedically, these persons are described as having disorders of sexual development (DSD). Given how fundamental our sexual identities are to us as persons, intersexed persons experience substantial psychosocial pressures. This presentation will look briefly at the biomedical basis of sexual development, the primary condition of DSD, some of the psychosocial challenges, and a Christian perspective on understanding human sexuality. Sponsored by SAGA (Sexuality Awareness, Gender Acceptance), the Sexuality Series and the biology department.

Are You Man Enough?: A Conversation on Race and Gender
For men only. This UNLEARN Week discussion will focus on different conceptions and experiences of manhood based on race or ethnicity. Sponsored by the Multicultural Student Development Office and the Sexuality Series.

The "It" Girls: A Conversation on Race and Beauty
For women only. This UNLEARN Week discussion will focus on culturally conditioned ideas of beauty/attractiveness, inter-cultural dating, and teaching children a healthy conception of beauty. A panel of students, faculty, and staff will share their experiences, stories, insights, and opinions as a springboard for discussion. Sponsored by the Multicultural Student Development Office and the Sexuality Series.

The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfilment While Keeping Your Clothes On
"Dawn Eden, author of The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On, believes that today's true rebels are those young adults who are striving for a love that goes beyond sex. She talks about the difference between abstinence, which is purely physical, and a lifelong journey of learning to love every individual in the fullest possible way — whether a friend, a relative, a spouse, or a stranger.
Dawn writes: "Before I discovered chastity, I believed I was supposed to make the most of my freedom to “have sex like a man.” That meant divorcing my emotions from my sexual activity, so that I would feel a bond with my partner only if and when I wished. If I wasn’t enjoying this game, then, according to feminist wisdom, I was doing it wrong. Today I see that I was doing it right, and that’s precisely why I was unhappy." www.thrillofthechaste.com

Book Club for The Thrill of the Chaste
For 4 weeks only: a book group for women on Dawn Eden's "The Thrill of the Chaste," an honest, insightful look at sex, culture and chastity. Books are provided for a suggested $5 donation. Contact Hillary hjb23@students.calvin.edu.

Find the study guide here.

Dates:
October 28, November 4, November 11, November 18

Premarital Workshop
The Broene Counseling Center is offering a premarital workshop for students planning to marry in the next year. The workshop will take place over two consecutive Saturday mornings, Oct. 30 and Nov. 6, from 9 a.m. to noon. It will be led by Rick Baez, Psy.D. Topics addressed will be family of origin, communication, conflict management, nurturing the relationship, and much more. In addition, couples will have an opportunity to take a premarital inventory and review the results with a Broene counselor at a later date. The cost is $50, which makes this an incredible bargain and opportunity. It is a great way to prepare for a rich and lasting marriage. To sign up or ask questions, please visit the Broene Counseling Center or call 616-526-6123.

Premarital Workshop
The Broene Counseling Center is offering a premarital workshop for students planning to marry in the next year. The workshop will take place over two consecutive Saturday mornings, Oct. 30 and Nov. 6, from 9 a.m. to noon. It will be led by Rick Baez, Psy.D. Topics addressed will be family of origin, communication, conflict management, nurturing the relationship, and much more. In addition, couples will have an opportunity to take a premarital inventory and review the results with a Broene counselor at a later date. The cost is $50, which makes this an incredible bargain and opportunity. It is a great way to prepare for a rich and lasting marriage. To sign up or ask questions, please visit the Broene Counseling Center or call 616-526-6123.

Out of the Sex Industry: the story of Anny Donewald and Eve's Angels
Raised in a Christian home in Kalamazoo, Anny Donewald started dancing in a strip club at the age of 19 and spent the next six years in and out of clubs in Michigan, Chicago and Las Vegas, finally working as a prostitute. God broke into her life in a remarkable way and called her to bring love and hope to women caught in the sex industry in West Michigan. Anny is founder and Executive Director of the non-profit Eve's Angels, which seeks to support women with resources and housing to leave the sex industry and discover God’s will for their lives.

Watch the series highlight video here.

Is this Your Sister? Brother? A Look at Local Sex-trafficking
When we think of sex-trafficking, we usually assume it's in other countries, not here. However, there is also a large and growing problem in the U.S., in Michigan and right here in Grand Rapids. Mary Dekker and Anthony Bender, local volunteers with the faith-based non-profit Project Liberty, will speak about the issues involved, and the efforts of the Project Liberty task force to rescue victims of trafficking locally, and seek ways to stop the demand.

Listen to an MP3 of the speech here

The Relationship Between Animal Abuse and Domestic Violence
A lecture by Dr. Amy Fitzgerald, Associate Professor in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology & Criminology at the University of Windsor, Ontario. Dr. Fitzgerald will talk about her book and research on the connection between animal abuse and domestic violence. Thursday, November 18th, 7:30 pm in the Gezon Auditorium. Sponsored by the sociology and social work department.

A Social Scientific Critique of Hierarchical and Egalitarian Models of Christian Marriage
A lecture by Calvin psychology professor, Marjorie Gunnoe. Co-sponsored by the Broene Counseling Center, Campus Ministries, the Department of Sociology and Social Work and the Psychology Department.

>> Listen here (MP3)

Wendy Gritter serves as the Executive Director of New Direction Ministries in Toronto, Canada. New Direction seeks to nurture safe and spacious places for those outside the heterosexual mainstream to explore and grow in faith in Christ. Wendy is an internationally recognized speaker focusing on building bridges in the conversations at the intersection of faith and sexuality and encouraging the faith community to be a place of radical hospitality to all.

Co-sponsored by the Broene Counseling Center, SAGA, Campus Ministries, Residence Life, Congregational and Ministry Studies, and Gender Studies.

• 6 weeks
• Free lunch
• Honest talk about how our families, faith, culture, and media have shaped our ideas about being men

With panelists Diana & Matt Burns, Tim & Anne Cusack, Jason & Julie Botbyl.

This discussion will explore the stories of 3 couples who married in their late 20's or 30's, and the ways in which they navigated peer pressure, careers and relationships to find their spouse.

Co-sponsored by Campus Ministries and the Mentoring Office.

If you enjoy asking hard questions and having honest conversation, you're invited to join a 6-week discussion group led by Janet Glassford and Lisa Jousma (Campus Ministries). We'll discuss topics such as "having it all," navigating relationships with friends and family, dating, sex and marriage, and of course faith and doubt (which just happens to be the chapel/LOFT theme this spring). We'll be meeting over lunch (provided) from 12:30-1:30 on Wednesdays in the Commons Annex starting Feb. 23 for six weeks. Space is limited to 10 students—RSVP to mentoring@calvin.edu soon if you'd like to attend!

Sponsored by the Mentoring Office

Join us for a 4-week discussion of LGBT people and the church, based around the DVD "Bridging the Gap: Conversations on Befriending our Gay Neighbors" by New Direction Ministries. Led by Julia Smith & Kyle Heys. Space is limited. Email Julia Smith jcs33@calvin.edu to sign up.

Cosponsored by Residence Life and SAGA.

The Broene Counseling Center again is offering a premarital workshop for students planning to marry in the next year. The workshop will take place over two consecutive Saturday mornings, March 5 & 12, from 9 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. It will be led by Rick Baez, Psy.D. Topics addressed will be family of origin, communication, conflict management, nurturing the relationship, and much more. In addition, couples will have an opportunity to take a premarital inventory and review the results with a Broene counselor at a later date. The cost is a mere $40 which makes this an incredible bargain and opportunity. It is a great way to prepare for a rich and lasting marriage. To sign up or ask questions, please visit the Broene Counseling Center or call us at 616/526-6123.

Carol Adams, author of "The Sexual Politics of Meat" will explore the links between patriarchal values, the objectification of women and the objectification of animals. With accompanying images illustrating the ways in which women's bodies are often portrayed as though they were meat, Adams interweaves the insights of feminism, vegetarianism, animal defense, and literary theory in a thought-provoking presentation.

Co-sponsored by Gender Studies, Philosophy, Multicultural Affairs, Art and Art History, English, and the Sexuality Series.

• Come away for a morning with other Calvin women to think and learn about how we can thrive and grow in healthy sexuality, work and relationships.
• Opening Plenary: Rev. Denise Stevenson, pastor at City Hope Ministries. “Thrive: Growing as Women in God’s Grace”
• Workshop A: Professor Renae Bos Potts, MSN, RN. “Sex: Answering those Questions that every woman has”
• Workshop B: Dr. Jan Arrowsmith, M.D. “Being a Woman in a Man’s World”
• Closing Plenary: Rev. Angela Taylor-Perry. "Building Relationships"
• Cost $5. Lunch and snacks are provided. Register here.
• Cosponsored by Campus Ministries, Health Services and the Nursing Department

This panel with Linda Naranjo-Huebl (English), Nicole Parker (Multicultural Student Development) and Erin O'Connor (Student Activities) will explore the historic roots and current expressions of sexual stereotypes based on racial background. Sponsored by the Multicultural Students Advisory Board.

Michael Kimmel is among the leading researchers and writers on men and masculinity in the world today. His most recent book, "Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men" is a best-selling investigation of young people’s lives today, based on interviews with more than 400 young men, ages 16-26. Kimmel is a Professor of Sociology at SUNY Stony Brook, New York. www.stonybrook.edu/sociol/?faculty/Kimmel/kimmel2

Sponsored by Gender Studies, the Sexuality Series, Residence Life, and the Sexual Assault Prevention Team.

Follow-up session for those who attended the women's retreat on March 12. With Professor Renae Bos Potts (nursing).

If you missed Anny Donewald in November, here's another chance to hear this dynamic woman. Anny speaks from first-hand knowledge of the sex industry and the lies it sells both women and men about beauty, love and sex. Anny is the founder and Executive Director of Eve's Angels, a non-profit organization that ministers the love of Jesus Christ to women in the sex industry in West Michigan. www.evesangels.org/

MP3 of the conversation is available here.

Cosponsored by Student Senate.

A panel of Calvin students and friends of the college share their reflections on being gay, lesbian or bisexual at a Christian college, or on having a loved one who is gay. Come and hear how these members of our community have navigated the reality of a sexual orientation that is often misunderstood.

Sponsored by SAGA, Broene Counseling Center, Gender Studies, and the Sexuality Series.

Join us as we pray for awareness, and healing for survivors.

A discussion of waiting for sex till marriage, with a panel of Calvin students and alums.

Cosponsored by Campus Ministries.